There‘s a myriad of misconceptions about anal sex circling around, and that’s probably why the idea makes most women cringe. You’ve probably heard that it’s a guy’s thing; it’s painful, messy and wrong among other things. Well, this article is there to debunk some of the common myths about anal sex and help you overcome some of the challenges that are typically experienced during the initial stages.
First things first, anal sex is not in fact a ‘guy’s thing’. We can’t, however, ignore men’s fascination with anal sex. Porn could easily be the culprit. The idea of tasting the forbidden fruit also makes it tempting, and the possibility of more sensation from the extra tightness makes it irresistible. But here’s why it could be a two-way delight, your anal region is richly endowed with highly sensitive nerves which makes the potential of pleasure far more erotic than you imagine. The space between the vagina and the rectum is also so thin that the g-spot can be stimulated in certain positions. This explains why some women experience orgasms solely from anal sex.
Is it painful? The truth is, initially, it will be uncomfortable and it might even hurt, but it soon goes away, especially if proper precautions are taken. So how can you make your first experience as comfortable as possible? -Sensitivity and communication. He must take is very slow and perpetually stay in touch with your responses. You should also never shy away from telling him what you really feel.
Things that Make Anal Sex Better:
- Lube
This is absolutely essential. You’ll need lots of it. Silicon-based lubes are the best because they last longer.
- Condoms
They glide easily with lube and ensure your safety against any infections.
- Anal Toys
Specifically butt plugs and vibrators will help you ease into anal sex before penetration.
If you don’t have the gadgets for butt play, his index finger will do the trick. He should stroke, fondle and swirl around to get all your muscles relaxed and only proceed with penetration when your anal region becomes fully accustomed. This should be done slowly and cautiously and with lots of lube. During this time, you should breathe deeply to relax your inner sphincter muscles to allow penetration.
The spooning position is most ideal for beginners because all the muscles are relaxed in that state. When you become more comfortable you can try doggie style which is more likely to get you to an orgasm as the G-spot is easily stimulated in that position.
The hygiene situation is also a big conundrum about anal sex, especially with women. It’s easy to focus on the functional side of it all, but if you think of your backdoor as a source of pleasure then you can find a new perspective. Undoubtedly, preparation will banish all your reservations and self-consciousness. It’s simple, just clear your bowels and give your butt a meticulous wash! That should do it, but if you’re not satisfied, then you can consider having an enema which is essentially douching your butt. Be careful though, anal douches can do more harm than good if used incorrectly.
Finally, the moral myth, is anal wrong? Let’s be honest, a few decades ago blow jobs were a despicable act and now it’s a fundamental part of sex, so ‘wrong’ is a relative word that depends on peoples’ opinion.
Anal sex has a lot to offer and is here to stay, but it’s not for everybody and you don’t have to jump on the bandwagon. Whether or not you want to engage in it is a decision that should entirely rest between you and your partner. Now that you know the real truth about anal sex you can make an informed decision.
