So lately you have realized that he’s coming too strong, and it’s probably time for you to call the shots and end the relationship? Most people go through a break-up (or several break-ups) in their lives. If you’ve ever been through it, you know it can be painful — even if it seems like it’s for the best. There are lots of different reasons why people break up. You might find that your interests, ideas, values, and feelings aren’t as well matched as you thought they were. . Perhaps you just don’t enjoy being together anymore. So here are some quick tips on how to part ways when things start getting bitter and ugly.
You must tell your boyfriend, preferably in person, the relationship is not working out for you. You can express regret and wish them well. You can acknowledge the fact that you know that your man, soon to be your ex is hurt. It may help to rehearse or write down what you plan to say. If you were very unhappy in the relationship, you might want to be specific about this when explaining why you don’t want things to continue. Focusing on how you feel rather than listing their faults is a more assertive way to handle such a discussion.
Tell your male partner the things that attracted you in the first place, and what you like about him. Then say why you want to move on. “Honesty” doesn’t mean “harsh.” Don’t pick apart the male counterpart’s qualities as a way to explain what’s not working. Think of ways to be kind and gentle while still being honest. There is no need of disrespecting your ex. Speak about your ex (or soon-to-be ex) with respect. Be careful not to gossip or badmouth him.
Think about how you’d feel. You’d want your ex to say only positive things about you after you’re no longer together. Plus, you never know — your ex could turn into a friend or you might even rekindle a romance someday. Don’t be ambiguous. I can’t stress this enough. Too many women don’t want to hurt their man’s feelings or try to soften the blow, so they wrap the discussion up in vagaries. They say things like, “Things aren’t working out right now, but that doesn’t mean I’ll always feel that way.”
Some people prefer a ‘clean break’ and do not wish further contact, ever. Others seek a period of separation after which time they can be in touch with their ex. It may be you are able to continue having contact. This is dependent on how your relationship was before the separation, and how you both deal with the split.
