It’s a thin line between trying to get him back and looking desperate. If you’ve been trying to win your ex back, and your efforts have hit the wall, then you might want to put a grinding halt on that little expedition. It seems that the more we try and the more he rejects us, the more desperate and emotionally unstable we become. It’s a slippery slope, if you’re not careful, you might actually go borderline-stalker on him because an obsession can easily drain all sense of reality and judgement.
How to Get Your Ex Back – NOT!
If you’ve been using these ways to try to get him back, please stop it–right now!
- Calling him
It’s understandable that you miss him, love him and want him back in your life, and you feel the need to express how you feel, but if he’s not answering his phone then the message seems pretty clear–He doesn’t want to talk to you! 
There are certain unspoken laws about how men and women interact and it’s almost categorical that women don’t chase men, particularly in this fragile situation. So when you deprive him of that primal role and give up your power, he tends to lose his interest in you. You need to give him space in order for him to miss you and find reasons to get back together with you. This unfortunately is his own personal quest and you cannot give him a helping hand. Just stop calling him! Go for a trip, start a class—do anything that will distract that urge because it’s completely counterproductive.
- Texting him
This is usually the next option after calling has failed. Again on chasing him, don’t send him cute, angry or desperate texts to try and win him back. It won’t work. In fact, it will put him off and drive you crazy when you don’t get the response you need, which will make you send even more texts and end up driving you even more crazy when he never texts you back! Don’t do it yourself.
- Spying
The dreadful thought of him moving on with someone else is probably ringing in your mind. There’s nothing foreign about it, all the feelings you have are expected, but how you handle them makes the real difference. Do not follow him around or have your friends keep tabs on him. High chances are, you’ll find what you’re looking. He’ll probably be talking to some girl–which doesn’t mean that he’s moved on, and when you find out then what are going to do about it? Two things might happen; you’ll die of anger and jealousy, or you’ll feel the need to confront him about it. Either of these will do more harm than good. Let him be. If he really loves, he’ll come back to you.
- Sleeping with your ex
This is a dangerous territory to tread. If you have any card left in the game, it’s the sex card. It’s likely that he’ll call you for a midnight booty call just to get over his urges. You might think that it’s a perfect opportunity to win him back, but it’s not! First, it could easily get you in the ‘friends with benefits’ category, second, you might misinterpret it as his effort to get you back with you, which is far from the truth–and will get you very hurt. And third, you’ll have given up all your power and you’ll have no cards left. So don’t sleep with him until he says outright that he wants to get back with you.
- Seeking mediation
If he dumped you, not even his friends can help. If anything, it’ll seem like you’re airing your dirty laundry for everyone. That will distance him even further. Don’t go for this option.
Coming up are some ways you can use to get your ex back!
