In the beginning of a relationship, it’s not uncommon for a couple to find themselves at what could be considered different relationship “status levels”. You may have your opinion on the status of your relationship, but how do you know his? For a couple to move on with the relationship, one way or another, each has to have a mutual understanding of the “status level.”
It’s a tricky thing to ask him for clarification about his feeling. It might seem to him like you are pressuring him. This can lead to resentment and even a fight that can put a strain on the relationship.
It is possible that when you ask the question about how he fells, you may not hear what you want to hear. That too 
can cause some problems in the relationship. Either way, it can lead to an uncomfortable conversation.
Before you have ‘the’ conversation with him, you may want to carefully consider whether or not this really is the person you want to take the relationship to the next level with in the first place.
It’s ohh so easy to see what you want to see. To be happy in a relationship you have to pick carefully. You don’t want to pretend that the person you are dating is ‘marriage’ material when he is so obviously t.
There are basics that you should never compromise on. Make sure he is someone who you want to continue on with before you open the topic up and ask ‘the’ question.
is he honest? If not, then why would you want to consider having a relationship with him anyway? News flash, he will not change! If he lies, cheats, steals then do not continue a relationship with them – with any expectations!
Is he mature enough to stay in a relationship with? It may be fun now to be with a ‘free spirit’ but that will get old the longer you are together. And don’t mistake a flaky, fighting attitude with ‘passion’. That is the epitome of immaturity.
Does he communicate effectively? That doesn’t just mean he knows know how to “sweet” talk, but does he know how to listen too? Do you? It’s important that you both are able to talk and listen to what each other has to say. Can you convey what you are feeling to him in a constructive way? Can you take constructive criticism from him? These are all important skills to have if you two are going to have effective communication – absolutely required in a good relationship!
The bottom line: can you trust him? Can you trust him not to cheat, can you trust him with your money, can you trust him to have your back no matter what is going on? If your answer to any of these questions is ‘No’ or ‘I’m not sure’ then, if want a “serious relationship status,” you really need to reevaluate why you are even in a relationship with this person. If this doesn’t matter, then you answered your own question about what level of your view of what status your relationship is at.
It’s understandable wanting to confirm your relationship status with him, but before you ask the question make sure that you are really ready for the answer, and that you really want to have a higher level status because the talk will usually either raises or lowers your relationship status. And if you aren’t ready for a higher level, let him come to you with it.
Pointer: Having sex does not necessarily make your relationship at any higher status level other than it being a sexual relationship. After all, he might think you are just the perfect proverbial “fuck buddy!”
