Have you been depending on your vibrator for you orgasms during female masturbation? Of course a vibrator can be more dependable than a man, but even it can let you down. How about the dreaded “dead batteries”?
There is a classic scene from an episode in Showtime’s Weed’s that epitomizes this occurrence. Nancy Botwin (Mary Louise-Parker) wakes up frisky one morning and goes for her “trusty” vibrator. Just as she gets into it, the batteries give out. Sound familiar? On an orgasmic mission, she searches high and low for batteries, finally removing the ones from the smoke alarm. Unfortunately, the batteries only have enough life in them for a few seconds of pleasure.
Ms. Botwin may have done what many of you are inclined to do – go non orgasmic. If she would have read this article, she would likely have pitched the vibrator across the room and continued on to a “great orgasm” sans vibrator!
One other area where I vibrator does not stand up to the methods we will get to, is that it is an inanimate object. This can make it a little more impersonal and less intimate.
As with most things in life, variety is what makes life interesting and sex of any kind better!
For example if you were to watch that Weeds episode over and over would get rather boring and eventually emotionally painful. This is the same with female masturbation. Depending on a vibrator to achieve an orgasm can become too repetitive and predictable, making your sexual experience less intense. So mix it up!
Now, the next time you reach for that vibrator, stop or throw it across the room! Simply apply the methods you are about to learn here and enjoy a new and different orgasm!
Open Up
Some women still feel a little uncomfortable or apprehensive about masturbating. Look it’s your body, so there is no need to feel any amount of shame, guilt, anxiety or embarrassment. It’s also the only vagina you’ve got! So get to know it physically, respectfully and intimately.
If you’re experiencing a mental block about female masturbation, you should stop feeling shy, examine your feelings and figure out where they come from with a professional’s help if you need to. There is no reason you should be missing out on one of life’s greatest pleasures!
Learn Some Basics
It’s worth mentioning that women masturbate in many different ways. However, a lot of women are still unfamiliar with the process that tends to satisfy the most. In simple terms, many women just masturbate by stimulating their clitorises. According to research, women are more likely to achieve an orgasm by stroking across the clitoris diagonally. Most women need a good amount of time to warm up, and even require consistent, repetitive stimulation to climax. On average, most women take about 20 minutes to reach an orgasm. These are just some statistics, don’t let them be any mandatory rule that you need to follow.
Practice Makes It Perfect
Learning a few female masturbation techniques is like learning other skills. You need to practice to achieve desired results. In the beginning, you may feel a little awkward and fumbly. It will take some time before you get used to satisfying yourself with your fingers. These days, most women live busy lives. Therefore, you need to schedule some time to practice masturbation. 20-30 minutes twice per week can be a good start.
In the beginning, it is possible you might feel like resorting back to the old dependable vibrator. However, you need to develop your mindset, and make yourself understand the importance of knowing your body. You need to make it a priority and challenge yourself to get better. But you should never force yourself to masturbate when you genuinely don’t feel aroused. Remember, this is all for your pleasure!
When you want to make masturbating less of a chore, you should make your practice sessions enjoyable. For instance, you can take a bubble bath, switch on some soothing music, wear a little slip-on, and feel sexy about yourself. In order to make yourself feel relaxed, you should also touch other areas on your body.
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Explore the Area
When you start experimenting with female masturbation techniques, you shouldn’t pressure yourself unnecessarily. Many women make unrealistic expectations, and get goal-oriented about reaching an orgasm. This can suck out the fun from masturbating. You should consider what kind of stimulation makes you feel good. You should never focus on the quickest route to achieve an orgasm.
Yes, orgasm is your destination, but like any journey the adventure along the way can be exciting too!
You should spend a few weeks exploring a wide range of female masturbation techniques. Each time you practice, it’s better to try a couple of strokes, and compare them with each other. You should also try different levels of pressure and different speeds. It’s important to start building a detailed list in your head comprising of different techniques to pleasure yourself. The reason it should be a list is to keep you from defaulting to only one method.
Female Masturbation Techniques You Should Try
Before starting to masturbate, you should at least do a little preparation. The best way to think about it is preparing for a date with yourself! It doesn’t hurt to put on a little makeup, some perfume and dress in a way that makes you feel sexy!
Here are some techniques to try. These are basically starter techniques. Pick a couple to begin with and as you become more aroused you will instinctively move into the direction of increased pleasure:
- Move your hands diagonally over your clitoris, starting right from the tip, and ending at your anus. Imagine moving your hands according to the clock, where 6 is your anus and 12 close to your belly button. Move your hands from 1 to 7 if you are a righty, or 11 to 5 if you use you are a lefty.
- Use only one finger to move in and around your clitoris avoiding touching the it directly.
- Rub your clitoris with one, two, three or four fingers. You can also use your hand to do so. The motive is to bring out the sensation.
- Using two fingers, place both the fingers on each side of the clitoris and start rubbing without putting too much pressure. Rub your fingers up and down to increase the intensity.
- Tap (or lightly “spank”) your clitoris simultaneously with your wet fingers.
- Make sure you do not put too much pressure when rubbing your clitoris. Use your slightest touch and gently rub the area with one or two fingers.
- You may also try the same act with your panties on. Fabric sensation can enhance the feel and sensation.
Experiment More
In order to achieve best results, you can use some more female masturbation techniques. When you experiment with a few techniques, it allows you to compare several options, and find something that works best for you.
- If you want to feel wet from the beginning, you can use lube on your fingers to easily glide your fingers onto the clitoris.
- Masturbate in different positions. Some may like to stretch their bodies, while others like resting on their stomachs.
- You may use objects to stimulate your clitoris or simply rub your clitoris against a rough fabric or pillow.
- Hold your breath for a few second as you masturbate (but no nooses or belts around the neck!
- Squeeze your muscles at small intervals and try to hold them – the same muscles you use when you force yourself to stop urination.
Focus on Your Orgasm
If you have tried the methods given above and have not achieved orgasm or your orgasms are just not up to the pleasure level you would like, don’t pressure yourself over it.
It can take up to 40 minutes or more to reach an orgasm at first. You should take time to warm up with feathery, light touches. Teasing yourself is also a good idea. The next step is to try a couple of strokes, and choose the two that feel sensual.
Use a single stroke every 3 minutes, and switch to the other one for about 3-4 minutes. Keep switching it up until you notice that one stroke feeling better. For the remainder of the time, you should stick with this stroke. Go faster and harder with the same stroke. You shouldn’t over analyze what’s happening, just keep focusing on your sensation.
If you’re just a beginner, you may not reach an orgasm for the first few times. You will, however feel good sensations and open up and intimacy with yourself.
The best thing you can do is to keep practicing, exploring new techniques and simply enjoying the process because before long you will have an orgasm or if you’ve already had orgasms they will only get better!
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